Those annoying habits can be damaging to a relationship over time. There's hope for change. Dr. Chapman provides a do it yourself approach to helping couples learn to overcome bad habits. By learning and using Dr. Chapman's simple 3-step process (admitting and asking forgiveness for your own past failures; discovering and speaking your spouse's love language; and learning the proper time, place, and way to request behavioural change), couples will be able to successfully negotiate change without resorting to arguing or manipulation.